So all growing up I listened to arguments about which spouse should handle money and how that should be done. And I just assumed that since I'm not that great at math that my husband would be the one to handle money matters (cause I was totally getting married at 21 so Mom&Dad could help me out til then and poof! Magic Money Managing Husband would appear and I wouldn't have to worry about it ever again). And then one day there was that friend that got so irritated at my way of thinking she let me know about it
Friend: That's like him saying 'Well I don't need to learn to cook or clean because I'm getting married. My wife will do all the cooking and cleaning'!
Me: Uuuugh! He should totally grow up already and stop being disgusting and starving!
Friend: Uuuugh! You should TOTALLY grow up already and learn how take care of your own money! Gosh!
I was totally offend!!!
I have been so grateful for the offense in the last six years!
Money has been a total stressor for me. I have a few thoughts on how to handle money that I've stuck too and things have gone well. Pay for what you need first then see what's left. So when I started taking care of my money (a finical advisor called it managing your own Person Business) I had two loans, counseling, car payment, rent, utilities, food, fuel, phone, and tithing which I didn't always do. I didn't always tithe because I didn't know how I would have enough left over to eat. I was terrible at handling money at twenty-two but I also wasn't making very much, at one point I was going to get a second job and was seriously looking, but God brought me to an understanding that He cares about His children and He provides best for them. So everytime I got a paycheck I would tithe and pray Lord pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeese! please provide everything this month, don't let me be put to shame! I know I have more then kids in Africa but there's so much I need to live here. Please provide! Please! Then I learned to leave that there and expect Him to come through for me. He did.
I wish I could say that I learned how to live on a shoe-string budget, that I know how to coupon and am totally into that... but I can't. Couponing gives me a headache, and I forget to pull them out in time. So
1. Learn along the way that God provides for His children's needs, trust that! Expect it!
2. God stretches dollars in ways you can't imagine and surprises us with what we need though community
3. Be wise. Get a finical advisor and learn to budget. Stick to it!
4. Don't stress it so much. An older friend of mine puts it like this "What goes around, comes around. Sometimes you have plenty, sometimes you're penniless! The good news is that Jesus always provides what'cha need, when ya need it. And you can bank on that."
I've recently gotten completely out of all debt and I totally thought that this would be easier then being in debt because now I have all this finical freedom. But I've dropped my plan for how to spend and save which has lead me to again call on my finical advisor for help. It's a huge temptation to just spend it all on me, and I've totally done that since being free in October and let me tell you something friend, it isn't very satisfying. Not very satisfying to not have goals, or to just get stuff or eat out all the time because I can.
Jesus is to be my first satisfaction.
I'm learning that being debt free is going to take just as much discipline as being in debt.
I learned in the last six years how to budget while in debt now on to the adventure of learning how to budget out and free. Oh Lord, Help!
Friend: That's like him saying 'Well I don't need to learn to cook or clean because I'm getting married. My wife will do all the cooking and cleaning'!
Me: Uuuugh! He should totally grow up already and stop being disgusting and starving!
Friend: Uuuugh! You should TOTALLY grow up already and learn how take care of your own money! Gosh!
I was totally offend!!!
I have been so grateful for the offense in the last six years!
Money has been a total stressor for me. I have a few thoughts on how to handle money that I've stuck too and things have gone well. Pay for what you need first then see what's left. So when I started taking care of my money (a finical advisor called it managing your own Person Business) I had two loans, counseling, car payment, rent, utilities, food, fuel, phone, and tithing which I didn't always do. I didn't always tithe because I didn't know how I would have enough left over to eat. I was terrible at handling money at twenty-two but I also wasn't making very much, at one point I was going to get a second job and was seriously looking, but God brought me to an understanding that He cares about His children and He provides best for them. So everytime I got a paycheck I would tithe and pray Lord pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeese! please provide everything this month, don't let me be put to shame! I know I have more then kids in Africa but there's so much I need to live here. Please provide! Please! Then I learned to leave that there and expect Him to come through for me. He did.
I wish I could say that I learned how to live on a shoe-string budget, that I know how to coupon and am totally into that... but I can't. Couponing gives me a headache, and I forget to pull them out in time. So
1. Learn along the way that God provides for His children's needs, trust that! Expect it!
2. God stretches dollars in ways you can't imagine and surprises us with what we need though community
3. Be wise. Get a finical advisor and learn to budget. Stick to it!
4. Don't stress it so much. An older friend of mine puts it like this "What goes around, comes around. Sometimes you have plenty, sometimes you're penniless! The good news is that Jesus always provides what'cha need, when ya need it. And you can bank on that."
I've recently gotten completely out of all debt and I totally thought that this would be easier then being in debt because now I have all this finical freedom. But I've dropped my plan for how to spend and save which has lead me to again call on my finical advisor for help. It's a huge temptation to just spend it all on me, and I've totally done that since being free in October and let me tell you something friend, it isn't very satisfying. Not very satisfying to not have goals, or to just get stuff or eat out all the time because I can.
Jesus is to be my first satisfaction.
I'm learning that being debt free is going to take just as much discipline as being in debt.
I learned in the last six years how to budget while in debt now on to the adventure of learning how to budget out and free. Oh Lord, Help!
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